"Hi! My name is ______" is the way each group member introduced themselves, allowing for fellow group members to first see them as a person, instead of just an addiction.
I attended an alcoholics anonymous meeting
with Sarah Caitlin Wheat and Camille Vaughn on Friday, October 23. Walking into
this group I was slightly nervous not about meeting people for a different
background but about making those people comfortable and making them understand
that I am not judging them for their situation.
The role of the facilitator in this
session was directive and facilitative. He started the session with readings,
which they start every meeting. During this time, I felt very out of place and
like the session was not going to be beneficial. I felt this way because people
were just reading off of paper and out of a book, rather than connecting with
each other. Throughout the reading time, the facilitator would help different
group members with the words that they could not pronounce. Initially that
bothered me because he was not giving the group members the chance to read the
words that they could not
automatically pronounce, but as he explained later he did that because he did
not want the man who could not read all the words to be embarrassed or ashamed
of himself. The facilitator also explained that there were many people who came
to group for an extended period of time who had never picked up the book to try
to read and that he applauded the man for having the courage to try with the
reading. The group leader was also more directive
because he gave the group the what to talk about and reminded them to stay on
the topic of alcohol; when the leader felt the need to redirect, he would by
simply reminding the group to stay on the topic of alcoholism and how it
impacted their lives.
After reading ended, the facilitator
wanted to go around the room for each person to introduce themselves and tell a
little about themselves. There were 8 people total in the session, other than
the three of us students. He left the amount that each person shared about
themselves up to the individual and didn’t ask any questions in order to elicit
further information from the ones who didn’t share many details about
themselves or their situation. The first couple of people did not take very
much time to talk about themselves but then that changed. The 3rd person
decided to tell more of his story. This man, we will call him Sam, had been
trying to become sober. Sam actually had admitted himself into the hospital the
day before because how intoxicated he was and had been released that day. I
really appreciated the things that he had to say because he was not somebody
who had been sober for years and had been establishing his sobriety for a long
period of time. He was struggling with making the transition but made himself
vulnerable by coming to group and sharing his experience. As the group
continued to go around and share their stories, many of the other group members
used their stories to build up Sam and to show Sam that there are benefits to
becoming sober. The group facilitator even took a turn at telling about himself
and addressing Sam. I realized as the group went that Sam was the one who
opened the group up with a reading out of the “blue book”. I think this was
because he was the newest and they were wanting him to embrace the commitment
and the reasoning behind the commitment to the group. The facilitator also took his turn to
not only tell his story but to also thank the other group members for telling
their story and/or embracing Sam.
As I said earlier in this post, I
initially thought that this group session would not be beneficial because each
member was just reading from a book. When the members started sharing their
different experiences, I still thought that the group was going to be fairly
unproductive and not very therapeutic, but as the group started supporting the
Sam I realized that I was terribly wrong. It was not the therapeutic experience
that I expected to see or the way that I expected the group to go, but I could
see Sam growing more and more confident as the group session progressed and
that the different men gave him the confidence, through their stories, to
pursue his dream of sobriety. There was a man there who had been sober since
2012. who had spoken with many different groups about his sobriety, as he spoke
I could see Sam’s posture change from a posture covered in embarrassment and
shame to a posture embracing the hope of his future.
At the
end of the group, the group came together holding hands to say The Lord’s
Prayer. During the session, the purpose behind the goal of sobriety being God
and His plan was mentioned many times. I think that them all coming together,
grasping hands, and joining in prayer with those that were in the same situation
that they had/are in was a way for each of the group members to feel like they
were a part of a bigger group and a bigger thing than themselves. Each group
member has struggled/is struggling with becoming sober and can feel alone out
in the world surrounded by people who demean them and makes them feel like less
than human, but within the group they are a part of hopeful and supportive
community. Embracing each other through holding hands and making a complete
circle, I felt like was showing that those in the group made a community, they
were to there to help the group members abstain from alcohol, and to make each
person aware of their place within the community.
Going to
this meeting really made me embrace the fact that a meeting may not go the way
you expect or the way that you have planned, but that it can still be therapeutic
and beneficial. I left this group feeling empowered and ready to embrace the
struggles of the world, even though I am not an alcoholic. I can only imagine
how empowering this group would have been for person struggling within the
group.
I think
this group was a group based more on the behavior cognitive approach. I feel
this way because of how the group encouraged each other and supported one
another. I feel like the manner they did this was helping the other group
members to change the way that they think, which will effect the way that they
live their life. A person who feels alone, helpless, and unworthy of love, is
more apt to embrace the feeling of failure and fall back into the patterns that
they once embraced as their normal. Having others going through the same thing
as you, or having successfully overcome your struggles, gives you hope and
allows you to see more than just the here and now of your life.